Why people whinge

Kids are up front about their whining. Adults, however, often try to crowbar whining into casual conversation. So why do we seem so predisposed to whining?

Sharing your woes with another person makes you feel a little less alone in the world. This is not a bad thing. But unfortunately whining can become a habit.

Our natural desire for connection often leads us to false conclusions about how other people will respond when they hear our woes. Telling people how hard things are evokes pity and sympathy at best and boredom and disdain at worst. For example, if someone starts to complain about their soo busy schedule and how tired they are, what goes through your mind?

Probably not, more likely you think:. Why do they happen? What helps me out of my own whining, complaining, bitching and moaning mode, every time? In that compassion, I can find a willingness to also be a friend to myself. Join the Your Courageous Life community by clicking the image, below.

You'll get access to a host of courageous resources, worksheets, audios, and more. A lot. Why people start whining, complaining, bitching and moaning When I noticed that I myself was doing a lot of whining, complaining, bitching and moaning, I did what has now become a courageous habitual response to uncomfortable things: I practiced the courage to get curious about what I was doing, rather than berate myself via the inner critic for not being better, in the first place.

What was happening? What were my default responses? What fears arose? You might find that this resonates for you, too : I was doing those things because I was tired. Hiding negative feelings and not talking about them leads to…the overload of feelings. And at some point, mostly everyone with an abundance of mucky stuff built up is going to start feeling like they desperately need at outlet, at which point they…start whining, complaining, bitching, and moaning.

Maybe we could give ourselves and each other a bit more gentleness with that. Rejecting Vs. Accepting Vs.